I would like to ask you right now to decide which is more important for you: the pursuit of truth, or to maintain the belief that you are correct. You don’t need to answer me, just something to ask yourself.
If you decide that the pursuit of truth is more important to you, then please become more conscious of how you conduct yourself in discussions. Are you becoming defensive of your current understanding on a topic rather than challenging yourself to learn more? Be careful. It is easy to fall into the trap of taking the easy route in trying to convince others (through various argument tactics, like derailing) that you are correct rather than to challenge your own confirmation bias on a particular topic.
Yes, cognitive dissonance is shitty. If you feel yourself getting defensive because your knowledge is challenge, you might actually be experiencing cognitive dissonance. Disengage from the conversation until you are able to confront the possibility that you might be wrong.
And now I’m going to go have a good cry. Big middle finger to all of the atheists out there who are more concerned with being “right”. The “big bad world” is bad, in part, because of people like you. Any time people like you are screaming to the world about the harm caused by religion all I see is a big neon sign that says HYPOCRITE. People like this are the same as the religious who cause harm – you neglect the emotions and well-being of others for your own ego and self-delusion.
Shitty atheists be shitty.
Love always, from a fellow atheist who occasionally suffers from Shittyatheitis herself.